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Guest Blogger--MaryAnn Diorio

(AUTHOR’S NOTE: I originally wrote this article one Christmas, but I believe it applies throughout the year.)

CHRISTMAS! The word evokes many feelings, depending on our experiences. For some, Christmas is a happy time, filled with beautiful memories and joyful expectations.

For others, Christmas is a depressing time, a season one wants “to get over with” as quickly as possible because of bad memories associated with this time of year.


Having ministered to people for many years, I have come to the conclusion that depressing memories at Christmas time are most often related to problems of unforgiveness. Hurts from the past become more pronounced during the Christmas season, but the reason those hurts still affect us is that we have not let go of the bitterness associated with them. In short, we have not forgiven the people who have hurt us.


Why do most people have such a difficult time forgiving? I believe the main reason is that they do not understand what forgiveness really means. If you are one of those people, what follows may help you:


LET’S LOOK AT WHAT FORGIVENESS IS NOT:

• Forgiveness is NOT letting someone off the hook.

• Forgiveness is NOT condoning evil.

• Forgiven is NOT being a doormat.

• Forgiveness is NOT having to trust again the person who hurt you.

• Forgiveness is NOT a feeling.

• Forgiveness is NOT an option.


NOW LET’S LOOK AT WHAT FORGIVENESS IS:

• Forgiveness IS taking the person who hurt you off of your hook and placing him on God’s hook, then praying that God will have mercy on him.

• Forgiveness IS acknowledging that evil was done but choosing to bear the consequences of that evil without retaliation.

• Forgiveness IS taking charge of your emotions.

• Forgiveness IS setting boundaries with the person who hurt you, even refusing temporary or permanent interaction with that person, if necessary. An example would be a wife who is being beaten by her husband.

• Forgiveness IS a decision.

• Forgiveness IS obedience to God’s commandment to forgive.


No matter how badly you have been hurt, choose to forgive. It’s the best thing you can do for your own well-being. Unforgiveness chains you emotionally to the person who hurt you.


Forgiveness breaks that chain and sets you free.


What better time is there than the Christmas season to forgive those who have hurt us? The very essence of Christmas is the truth that God forgave humanity through the shed blood of Jesus Christ. Who are we not to forgive when God has forgiven us?


So this Christmas, forgive! But don’t just forgive. Ask to be forgiven. As the Word of God tells us, “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). All of us need not only to forgive but also to be forgiven. And as long as we are on this earth, it is never too late to forgive or to be forgiven.

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Copyright 2015-2021 by MaryAnn Diorio, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

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Kaethe Pittman
Kaethe Pittman
Jun 01, 2021

Perfect blog post for this Summer! If it will be "like Christmas" to see everyone we couldn't see last year, then the hurts are going to show up along with the joys. Thank you for sharing this for all of us who need the reminders.

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maryann
Jun 01, 2021
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Hi, Kaethe, You make an excellent point about seeing people this summer we have not seen since last year. May our Lord use you to bring reconciliation wherever He leads you this summer, and beyond. Thank you so much for sharing your comments. Blessings, MaryAnn

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maryann
May 30, 2021

Thank you, Christina, for featuring me on your blog today. I greatly appreciate your kindness. Many blessings to you and your readers. ~ MaryAnn Diorio

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Christina Sinisi
Christina Sinisi
May 30, 2021
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You are welcome--God bless you as well and thank you for the article!

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